Questions about gender identity?
If you’re reading this, then chances are you either personally identify as something other than the sex assigned to you at birth or you know someone who might. It can be confusing to navigate for sure, and our Western culture certainly has done us any favors either. Thank goodness that is starting to shift, and I’m here to help in any way I can!
You see, your “gender identity” encompasses so much more than what’s between your legs. It’s your own personal experience/ private sense of being a boy/girl, man/woman, and anything in between or neither. So, how you choose to identify (e.g., “male or female”) is completely up to you! Culture may try and dictate our “gender roles” (i.e., what behaviors, clothing, jobs etc are expected of us depending on if they view us as male or female), however whether or not you choose to abide by them is your own personal choice.
Here’s an easy breakdown from Planned Parenthood:
- Sex is biological. It includes our genetic makeup, our hormones, and our body parts, especially our sex and reproductive organs.
- Gender refers to society’s expectations about how we should think and act as girls and boys, and women and men. It is our biological, social, and legal status as women and men.
- Gender identity is how we feel about and express our gender and gender roles — clothing, behavior, and personal appearance. It is a feeling that we have as early as age two or three.
Some people find that their gender identity does not match their biological sex. When this happens, the person may identify as transgender.
Bottom line, gender just like sexuality isn’t binary. It’s a vast continuum. For example, you may have been born with a vagina, however identify as male, bi-gendered, gender queer, intersex, agendered or anything else that resonates with you. For a more comprehensive list of terminology, click HERE.
Sometimes this can change the way we identify sexually but other times it doesn’t and that needs to be okay. Furthermore, who and what we are attracted to sexually, does not necessarily mean we are romantically or emotionally connected to. Check out the handy infographic below.
And, if you would like to learn more about the subject of gender and sexuality, I invite you to schedule an appointment to further explore your own unique situation. I would love to speak with you!
For a list of some of my favorite resources for Trans people click HERE.